This won't be a pleasant connection until both parties give and receive. Your Aries is free-spirited and wild, and while you admire those qualities, you don't especially love sharing them.
Your Aries will learn to admire your good judgment, steadiness, and reliability over time. You'll almost probably become their rock, helping them solve problems and sensibly avert crisis.
You have all of the qualities your partner desires, but they'll probably find you a little boring as a consequence. Tell them (and yourself!) that tolerance and preparation are functional abilities, not flaws!
The great news is that this relationship will become stronger as time passes. You may be inspired to instill more accountability in your Aries to speed up the process, but tread carefully. Aries despises it when others tell them what to do. So, instead of being dictatorial, provide recommendations and, if feasible, offer little incentives for following them!
Your Aries isn't going at the same pace as you. Your pace dial is set to one, while theirs is at ten. This is a good thing because you need someone to motivate you to 'live a little.' The issue in this relationship is to find a middle ground, and both parties end up going at a pace of 5.
The reality is that you're both adamant about adhering to your schedules. Therefore you'll have to approach it as a learning experience to adapt to your spouse. If one or both of you starts protesting, you'll quickly come to a stalemate since you're both known for being obstinate.